So What Now?… What Are My Plans?

Experiencing Loss / Sunday, January 21st, 2018

So What Now?… What Are My Plans?

After the loss of my baby boy due to an incompetent cervix, I went to visit my OB (Obstetrician) for my post-partum check up. An OB is the doctor that provides care for you and your baby during your pregnancy, and they can sometimes deliver your baby. I had to have a check up to make sure I was healing properly. At this appointment, they check your cervix to make sure its shrinking.

During my appointment, we discussed my issue of incompetent cervix. My OB told me everything looked great as far as my pregnancy; baby was completely healthy. I didn’t have any infections. Having an infection during pregnancy can cause your membranes (the sac your baby is in) to rupture prematurely. There was no other explanation but to point at the fact that I had cervical shortening very early.

What next?

So, what now? Can we get pregnant again? Will we ever be able to have children? The answer is yes. My OB told me that having an incompetent cervix is treatable. The next time I get pregnant, I will need to get a Preventative Cerclage placed between 12 and 15 weeks. A cerclage is a tough, non-stretchy band that is stitch around the bottom of your cervix in order to keep it shut. I will also have to take Makenna shots (P17 shots) starting at 16 weeks to provide extra strengthening and length to my cervix.

After hearing all of these amazing statistics about the Preventative Cerclage, I started to become relieved and a little happier. In my head, I’m thinking, wow my babies will have a better chance at survival.

After I left my doctor, I started to do my research. I started receiving several dm’s on my Instagram from different women who experienced a loss due to incompetent cervix. They were telling me about joining a group called, Abbyloopers. So, I took it upon myself and joined their Facebook.  It is a wonderful resource for women who have incompetent cervix. If you’re searching for a support group after a loss from incompetent cervix, you can find their information under my resources page, below my “About Me” tab.

Transabdominal Cerclage VS Preventative Cerclage

While reading through their group discussions, I learned about a more permanent solution called, Transabdominal Cerclage (TAC). Basically this type of cerclage is placed while under a local anesthetic or anesthesia. You can get the procedure done laparoscopically or surgically through a c-section cut. The goal is to not remove it at all because you can use it for all of your pregnancies.

Seems like this would be the better option since you only have to do the procedure once. With the Preventative Cerclage, you have to get them placed during each pregnancy and then they have to cut it out around 36 or 37 weeks. Only downfall with the TAC is that you would have to have a c-section to deliver your baby.  You can’t labor through a TAC because it is place inside of your body at the top of your cervix. You see, half of your cervix is exposed in your vagina and the other half is internal.

What do you think?

After doing my research, I’m leaning more towards the permanent solution. Who cares if you have to have a c-section. Seems like its becoming the norm now anyway. I never imagined having  a c-section and never wanted to have one. However, if it allows me to bring my precious bundles of joy home, then i’ll take it. Hands Down! What are your thoughts?

I’ve seen so many women who have tried the Preventative Cerclage and it ended up failing. In the end, these women ended up losing another pregnancy in the second trimester. I can’t go through another loss. When I was pregnant, it seemed like it took forever to make it to the second trimester. I was so glad I made it past the first trimester, because that’s when most pregnancies end in miscarriage. My incompetent cervix got the best of me. But I won’t allow this to happen again. I am going to do whatever it takes.

Thanks for reading,

Mrs. Goodwin


13 Replies to “So What Now?… What Are My Plans?”

  1. You are such an inspiration to so many women who have had miscarriages.
    I wouldn’t want to offer my opinion on something so personal. But, I will say that while a C-section does have some risks, I’d choose that over the chance of losing another baby. You’ll have many healthy babies! I’m sure of it. I’m rooting for you 💕

  2. Hello you’re a strong young adult. You and your husband are on “A journey With A Purpose”. You are “using” what God gave you. What you are is God’s gift to you; what you do with yourself is your gift to God. -Danish proverb. Happy for you and your entire family. Takes courage…
    I am your Creator. You were in my care even before you were born. Isaiah 44:2a (CEV)
    We love you guys.💕

  3. I am happy that you made this post because so many people are aware of IC. It is a literally a silent killer and I’ve gotten my TAC and am excited to try in the future. ❤️ With grief comes strength! 💪🏾

  4. There is no shame on a c-section… I had two… the permanent seems to make more sense and if it will give you the best chance… I say go for it! I pray that you and your husband are blessed with the joy of being parents and I know you both will be wonderful ones!

  5. I’ve had an emergency c section and of course I was scared but looking back on it it’s something you wouldn’t mind doing for your child over and over again and if it allows you to have your bundle of joy then I say go for it! Hands down. 🙏🏾

  6. You are an inspiration to so many people. Thanks for sharing your testimony with the world. Sometimes we don’t understand things in life. However, God does everything with purpose. BE ENCOURAGED 💖💖

  7. I’m so glad to know you are doing better and that you’ve done your homework to prevent this from happening again. After 2 successful pregnancies, I had surgery that left me with an incompetent cervix. I miscarried for the first time at 24 weeks, and a year later, at 19 weeks. My doctor attempted a cerclage during my second pregnancy but because of the way my uterus sits, he was not able to do it the way he planed. Unfortunately, a week before my second surgery I miscarried. I understand your pain and know what you’re going through. I will continue to keep you in my prayers and I know with the knowledge that you have gained, your rainbow baby will be here in no time healthy and happy.
    Love You Sweety-
    Lynn (Lexi’s Mom)

  8. Thanks for sharing Morgan! I personally ended up having a traditional cerclage placed around 19 weeks with my rainbow baby. But trust your body! There is nothing wrong with having a c-section.

    I have an entire month of podcasts dedicated to black women who have had Incompetent Cervix’s during September 2017. Many ended up getting a traditional cerclage and one women who had 6 losses ended up getting a TAC which allowed her to have two rainbows.

    All the interviews were released in September 2017 the links are below.

  9. Our stories are identical. We lost our son Jack due to CI in Nov. 6, 2017. We were also told that a preventative cerclage at 12 weeks would be a good option for us. And just like you I found the Abbyloopers and after three additional consults we decided that the TAC is the only route for us. The success rate of the preventative cerclage is abou 60% according to my MFM. The success rate of the TAC pushes 98-99%. Those odds are enough to convince me that the TAC, despite the surgery to place it and the c-section delivery, is right for me. I can’t cremate another child due to cervical issues when I now have knowledge that other procedures exist out there that have very good outcomes. I’ve already had to c-sections and they were a breeze!

    That said, just because it’s the best route for my situation doesn’t mean it will be what everyone is comfortable with. I think of you and your son often, as our losses occurred so close to each other. I wish you all the best in your journey to your rainbow baby. 💙

  10. I’m sorry for your lost. I lost my son on 10/22/17 at 20 weeks, due to an incompetent cervix as well. Now my biggest fear has been what if the next time i get pregnant the cerclage fails. I have heard of TAC but I haven’t done much research on it, this has inspired me and it gives me more hope. Thank you for having the courage to share your story. You will be in my prayers.

  11. Thank you for being so open about baby loss. My loss was in my third trimester, due to a few things. A cord accident, iugr, and placental abruption. I am currently pregnant now and it kind of scares me because my issue was caused by high blood pressure, but ultimately the cord around his ankles and neck took my baby. I’m on meds now, but nothing is promised as we sadly know. I like the idea of the permanent cerclage in your case. I hope whatever you decides, it works and you get to bring home a beautiful baby. I will pray for you, and I prayed for you and your husband on the game on Christmas Eve. I saw your husband and it’s a club you don’t want to be a part of, but we get it. So never give up hope, our babies will get their sibilings.

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